Drop PyTorch 1.9 support

[carmocca]

Proposed refactor

See title

Motivation

PyTorch 1.13 is released today Oct 27 (at least that's the plan).
We already support it and test it.

Pitch

To follow our previous support window of 4 versions, drop 1.9 with PL 1.8

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cc @carmocca @akihironitta @Borda @justusschock @awaelchli @rohitgr7

[Borda]

let's proceed with this one after #15128 and #15403